Welcome to the Parfait Doll FAQ! If your question isn’t answered here, please feel free to contact me with Parfait Doll’s contact form! I’m updating this with new frequently asked questions as I go along.


What is Lolita fashion?

Lolita fashion originally heralds from Japan and the Harajuku district of Tokyo, a style depicting doll-like girls in lace, frilly petticoats, and an array of colors from black and white to sweetest pink and blue. Lolita fashion has its own established brand or design houses such as Baby the Stars Shine Bright and Angelic Pretty. It is a worldwide phenomenom encompassing what seems to be every culture which fosters youth culture or subculture.

Where do I buy lolita/pastel clothes/x item in my area?

Most lolita and other j-fashion stores are solely online. Almost all of my clothes I buy from the Internet. My favorite places to shop are Angelic Pretty, DreamV (see my article on how to order from them), or secondhand shops like Closet Child. Unfortunately I am an American shopper and may not know specifics on how to order or buy clothes in your area.

What is lolita lifestyle?

Lolita lifestyle is the concept of bringing lolita fashion’s ideals, like femininity, beauty, and attention to detail, into other aspects of daily life. Typically this can include anywhere from a personal philosophy from interpreting lolita fashion (like appreciation of a china cup, single flower, or music notes) to hobbies or other activities that are similar to lolita style (such as embroidery, flower pressing, ballroom dance, decorating, etc). It is important to note that not all lolitas choose to be lifestylers. You can see more articles on lifestyle lolita by clicking the ‘lifestyle’ tag.

What is cute culture?

A term you’ll see floating around Parfait Doll a lot is ‘cute culture’. Cute culture is a unique phenomenon spreading outwards from Japan and other parts of Asia with a permeating preference for ‘cute’ as their prime aesthetic. It can be found in anything from art and fashion to food and house goods, in makeup or in music. Some examples of ‘cute culture’ are cute fonts, heart-shaped waffles, bright-sounding jpop… the list goes on!

Will you help me with my paper/thesis/project?

I’m sorry, but I get so many of these in a week that I’d end up doing more homework for others’ lolita projects than doing my own studying! You are welcome to source my blog or articles, but I will not be answering interviews or otherwise participating in research. For my sake and your professors’, make sure you use the proper MLA formatting and cite me like you would any other website :)

Will you be my pen-pal?

I would love to be pen-pals with the girls who message me, but I’m a disappointing pen-pal… I just don’t have time to write! This is another request I get a lot. Sorry!

How do I…?

I love getting questions from readers, but I am no longer answering questions that have already been written into articles. The archive goes all the way back to 2008, take a look! There’s some real gold in there if I do say so myself!

You’re a model?! How can I become a lolita model too?!

I wrote an article on my advice on becoming a lolita model here. While I’ve enjoyed being a model and having these opportunities, modeling isn’t for everyone and you don’t need to be a model to be beautiful.

Will you link to/pimp out my blog?

Sorry, unless I read it myself routinely, it will not be in the links section. If however I enjoyed something you wrote enough to write something inspired by it, or I want to reference a piece of yours, you will be linked and therefore credited in the work. I do not accept pleas to feature or link blogs I do not personally enjoy.

Where do your ideas come from?

Whatever is going on around me! Lolita, for me, is an evolution – twisting a piece of fabric again and again until it fits better into the pattern that is me. Because of this, I seem to have no shortage of ideas! I may write about anything from a daily outfit to a new blend of tea I’m currently enjoying.

I love your Pom, would you recommend them as a breed?

Yes and no! Poms are pretty high maintenance pets, mostly because of all that fur. I was not prepared for the fur! While they’re not big shedders, they easily gets mattes in their wooly undercoats and really need to be combed often with a fine-toothed comb. If you bathe them, they will need to be blow-dried. Poms can be very happy, friendly dogs, but because they are small they are also prone to Small Dog Syndrome (aka Napoleon Complex). Being small can also make them feel threatened and more likely to snap (Misu is only 6 lbs!). Pomeranians are also notorious for being stubborn and independent, meaning they’re not big people-pleasers. Make sure you do your homework before picking out a dog breed!



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