The Princess Code


When I first started dressing in lolita, in 2005 or 2006, I can’t quite remember – there was really only one lolita blog available on the Internet. Mostly a collection of pretty photos with a few articles on etiquette, inspiration, and dressing well, the Princess Portal was a diary-style website many fell in love with. The author, an Australian lolita called Princess Skye, was one of my first lolita inspirations. I don’t think there has been anything quite like her site since she closed it several years ago*.

One of the most beloved pieces Princess Skye wrote was titled “The Princess Code”, meant to be an inspiring poem and guideline for the budding lifestyle lolita. Since she’s taken down her site, this manifesto has only continued to circulate through social media sites and copy-paste. When I ran across it again, I wanted to preserve it – so I decided to give it a place here on my blog, Parfait Doll. Although we’re very different people and websites, I still credit her with first inspiring me to try my hand at blogging – creating the then-named Lolita Charm.

Because the style of this work is very fairytale-inspired and flowery, it is not to be taken too literally. It feels to me like a more archaic view of the lolita lifestyle, but I felt it was too precious to lose to the flow of cyberspace.


The Princess Code

written by Princess Skye

A Princess inspires others to follow their hopes and dreams through pursuing her own.

A Princess greets everyone with a welcoming smile, melting the hearts of friends and disarming her enemies.

A Princess has dignity, which protects her from the opinions and spite of ignorant people.

A Princess always looks beautiful, even when she is asleep.

A Princess aims for perfection in every step.

A Princess should be given fresh flowers everyday, even if she has to give them to herself.

A Princess grows in recognition and stature in proportion to how much she treats others as royalty.

A Princess reflect’s her inner beauty in her aesthetic choices.

A Princess goes to war against the violence of incivility with the weapons of etiquette and prodigal generosity.

A Princess lives each day from the heart, expressing herself freely and treasuring every moment.

A Princess has the right to spend her funds on beautiful things she does not need because beauty in itself is priceless.

A Princess should follow her heart and believe in her dreams, even if the whole world seems to be against her.

A Princess respects her environment and nurtures the beauty of nature.

A Princess is never too busy to give a kind word or smile where it is needed.

A Princess’s most precious jewel is Hope, which lights her darkest days and shows her the beauty in every soul she meets.


*With the closure of the Princess Portal, Skye opened a new website called “The Lost Princess” which is a collection of photographs and stream-of-consciousness fairytale imaginings. She no longer posts photos or article related to lolita or fashion. I am not sure if this website is active.

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