This year I’ve been lucky enough to meet many new lolitas, and even find the rare gems that aren’t quite what you expect. These are the brolitas, our brothers-in-lace, who doll up with us and share petticoats. Brolita is the slang term that means a male cross dressing in lolita clothing, with all of the hair and makeup and other accoutrement.
A friend of mine, who sometimes cosplays as a female character, recently told me that he wanted to try wearing lolita. After presenting him with probably hundreds of pictures, it became apparent that gothic lolita was more to his taste, rather than the sugary stuff I tend to wear – which makes sense, as he usually prefers wearing metal band t-shirts.
So Miss Lumpy and I invited him over for a day of dress-up and study, which we dubbed Princess Day. The following is what ensued.
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When asked why he wanted to dress lolita, his answer was striking to anyone who has ever donned the frills: “I want to feel pretty. There’s a feminine part of me I want to express.” I think any lolita, no matter gender or appearance or orientation, has said they just want to feel pretty or wear things they find pretty. It is the ultimate basis of lolita fashion, like a car’s engine: without it, there’s no drive.
I’m so proud of Dave. He boldly went where no man had gone before (well, this particular man) – into the poofdom. And he’s really quite beautiful. I hope this encourages all the other beautiful boys in this world.