The Foolproof Lolita Holiday Shopping Guide

the 2017 kawaii holiday gift guide

Dear Mom, Dad, or hapless boyfriend/girlfriend who has been linked to this page, only a few weeks before Christmas/Hannukah/Festivus,

Listen, I get it. It’s only a few weeks before the big day, the lolita in your life has given you a Christmas list with a million buzzwords (what, exactly, is an AP OP with matching pannier and otks and canotier, and why is it $600?!), you don’t know the difference between chemical lace, cluny lace, or raschel lace, and your desire to leave the couch, especially in the cold, is exceptionally low. You have a laptop, a credit card, and whole lot of holiday goodwill and the deserve to make your lolita happy this holiday, but – no idea where to start.

This is the complete foolproof guide on ordering lolita fashion for the holidays without any insane shopping services, translation machines, a Japanese or Chinese speaking bestie, or weird wire transfers that may or may not be intercepted by a Nigerian prince.

Or if you’re way too nervous to order clothes for somebody else (million dollar question: will it fit?!), here’s my original kawaii gift guide. And here’s a kawaii gift guide for under $50! And in case that’s not enough, try this video from Princess Peachy about what to get the lolitas in your life.

For those who still want to venture in the world of lolita fashion shopping, let’s continue.

Lolita Fashion Retailers in the United States

These shops are selling within the United States, with easy-to-use websites and typically take straight-up credit card. No matter your lolita skill level, if you know how to shop online, you should find shopping here a breeze.

Harajuku Hearts – a San Francisco based shop for multiple lolita brands in various styles.

Angelic Pretty USA – an American retailer of Japanese brand Angelic pretty – gift cards available

Tokyo Rebel – a New York City based retailer with multiple brands in several styles from classic, gothic, sweet and punk – gift cards available

Tokyo Otaku Mode – a retailer with such cute brands as Swankiss, Milklim, and galaxxxy – a Chinese middleman seller of lolita fashion – a Taobao reseller that I personally recommend and have ordered from in the past

A note about Devilinspired and LolitaWardrobe – they both order things to be custom-made overseas, which can take time, or things that are currently in stock and only need to be shipped out. Make sure your presents will come in time for your holiday by choosing items that are in-stock and ready to be shipped!

Amazon and eBay Retailers

Sometimes you can find good places to get kawaii or lolita-inspired fashion on Amazon or eBay through third-party sellers. Here’s a few of my favorite products or sellers on these platforms. If you are ordering through these sellers, make sure that your gift is not going to take a long time to get to your doorstep – sometimes Chinese sellers especially can take a long time to get goods into your hands. But so long as your shipping is checked, this shopping is as easy as Add to Cart. There’s also plenty of cute gifts on Amazon you can think of, like the ones mentioned in Peachy’s video.

Lolita Shoes from Amazon – I’ve worn and loved many a lolita shoe collection from Amazon. Several of these also offer Prime, free 2-Day shipping. I don’t personally recommend lolita clothing from Amazon, but shoes are typically a safe bet.

Liz Lisa Official eBay shop – a sweet princess styled fashion house of ‘himekaji’ or ‘casual princess style’, these pieces can also be worked into some lolita fashion looks or worn as-is for a dolly but more casual style

Secondhand Sellers

This method is not entirely foolproof, so that’s why it’s in third place on our guide! If you are used to buying other goods online with Paypal, you can easily find lolita fashion in all styles and types using the secondhand sales market. The way it works is this: once you go through these linked shops and find an item you’d like to purchase, message the seller and set up a Paypal transfer and they’ll ship the item out to you. This method is best if you want your item ASAP (like, you forgot the lolita in question’s birthday is next week, and there’s no guarantee an official lolita store like above can get it there in time). Explain to the seller that you need that sweet overnight shipping or priority mail, and you can potentially have your item within three days.

LaceMarket – secondhand sellers of lolita fashion who may be willing to get your item FedExed, shipped, or sent by dogsled in record time

BONUS ROUND: Mall Shopping and Gift Cards

For the truly last-minute among you, here is your ultimate survival guide. Here’s a list of favorite places at your local mall or big-box where you can get gift cards that any lolita in your life is sure to love.

Lush – all-natural bath and body products, especially with seasonal favorites like Snow Fairy

Sephora – the mothership, aka a makeup superstore, for everything from perfume to eye shadow palettes

Ulta – hair and makeup supply superstore similar to Sephora

Michaels Craft Store – for all of her DIY needs, from pearls and rhinestones to faux roses and ribbons

MAC Cosmetics – because okay, we all need makeup, MAC is the classic choice

Kate Spade – um, adorable designer purses and jewelry for any chic style, yes

I also labeled in bold the lolita fashion specific stores that will sell you gift cards! If you do go the gift card route, make sure to use a nice holiday card with a personal note and attach some chocolates or a bouquet of flowers so that the tree isn’t too bare looking Christmas morning.

So if you think the lolita in your life is secretly but maybe not so secretly expecting you to read her mind come Christmas morning…

christmas in lolita fashion

Make sure you keep this easy lolita fashion shopping directory on hand! And lolitas reading this right now, I’m sure you – ahem, I mean, Sandy Claws – can think of someone special to send it to! What is your dream lolita gift this holiday season?

Cookie Monster and Street Harassment

Kawaii fashion and street harassment

Picture it: Lolita Day, the winter of 2017, in New York City. Roughly 45 degrees, cool but not cold. I keep seeing people pass with red holiday coffee cups and Christmas tree sales have popped up on corners. It’s a beautiful day to be decked out in your lolita finest.

I am walking down the street with my friend Lili, and we are in matching rosy dresses. As it’s our ‘cultural holiday’, we are decked out in full sweet lolita regalia. Admittedly I think there are a minimum of five bows on my head. As we continue down the street, a hipster-looking guy, with both full lumberjack beard and the faschy haircut, says very loudly, loud enough for the whole block to hear, and in a Cookie-Monster or Avenue Q styled voice, “ALWAYS SAY HI TO PEOPLE IN COSTUMES!”

I’m no stranger to street harassment, especially in lolita, and I am no longer embarrassed or cowed by these kind of head-on, confrontational interactions. When I was younger, I was first shocked, scared, or intimidated by being yelled at in the street. Then, when I was a little older, I decided that yelling back might be the better answer. (Which is when I wrote the article, ‘Why New York City Lolitas Swear’, as my original response to catcalling.) As the years progress, I have gone from scared, to angry, to resigned. Whether the comments are rude, crass, sexual, or just outright loud, I no longer have a problem firmly – but politely – responding.

As we pass, I look him in the eye and say levely, “Don’t be rude”. Usually, calling someone out brings them back reality, but this guy perhaps is not used to being called out. He continues to yell, to the eardrums of the entire block, and still imitating Cookie Monster,

“I am talking to my daughter! She is six! I am not being rude! She is six so I cannot be rude to her!”

As I cross the street I call back, “Street harassment is a serious problem.”

At this point, we are officially a block apart, but this guy is not giving up. He says, as Cookie Monster, who I recall being significantly more polite, “YOU ARE LOOKING TO BE OFFENDED!”

I respond simply, “Teach your daughter better.”

I can only assume when this man gets home to his East Village apartment, and says to his wife, “Honey, you won’t believe, I was so annoyed by these girls on the street who didn’t appreciate me yelling at their existence when I was really just playing around with Olivia/Madison/Emma today!” And I’m sure he spun it so that he didn’t come off like a complete insert-swear-here, but here is what actually happened, Mr. Cookie Monster.

You saw people that looked different, and decided to entertain your child at the expense of these passersby, who you don’t see as quite the same people as yourself. I will personally never understand what compels people to yell at other people on the street for any reason. Your daughter saw you yell at women on the street, for dressing in a way you either did not appreciate, or respect, and that it is okay to humiliate them in a public space. I wonder who else you feel comfortable yelling things at on the street.

Someday, I guarantee you, someone will yell things on the street at your daughter, no matter what she wears. It doesn’t have to be sexual. It doesn’t have to be about her looks. It doesn’t matter if she is wearing a giant bow on her head or stained sweatpants. It is about power, entitlement, and about getting the right to police women in public for whatever arbitrary rules you feel like that day. Even if you think they just look funny. Even if you think it is just a joke to you. And what is a joke to you, is not a joke for us, who regularly fear for our lives, that your jokes turn violent.

As we watch countless celebrities and powerful execs go down as habitual predators, as it’s revealed (at least, to the mainstream public) exactly who is ‘that guy’ that everyone knows to avoid, you’d think there would be a little more caution in the air. They’re claiming this is a witch hunt. ‘Who could be next?! We live our lives in fear!’ They tell us. Clearly, not so, because this keeps happening. Women are still being harassed on the streets, in the workplace, or anywhere they happen to be.

To the Cookie Monster wanna be, sir, let us also reflect on this point: ‘you are looking to be offended.’ Yes, of course, I am out with my friends, having a good time, until I am yelled at in public, and my first thought is, “Yes! A catcall! I have been waiting all day for this! I am going to be so offended!” No one is looking to be offended. Offended means to have been the subject of one who has committed an offense. Offense, just like the guys who maneuver hockey pucks down the ice and try to smack them into your face. Offense, as in, to strike first. And yeah, that is kind of what it feels like to get yelled at on the street when you’re otherwise minding your own business – a smack to the face. So, why would anyone want to be offended?

Street harassment isn’t a new topic here on the Doll. It seems like it’s a topic we must revisit again and again, and the stories are innumerable. Some of them are annoying; some of them are almost humorous; some of them are scary. No matter whether your experiences with the public are good or bad, in lolita fashion you will always have Experiences.

I’ve approached older ladies who refuse to stop taking pictures and shoo me away when I attempt to talk to them, as if I was not allowed to talk and speak, and should behave more like a zoo exhibit. In the same five minutes, I was approached by a slightly tipsy gentleman who, despite the efforts of his friend, told me my ‘beauty would, like, save the world, so like. SLAY girl, SLAY.’

I like talking to people who are interested in my clothing, mostly. I like receiving genuine compliments. Likewise, I don’t like being insulted, made fun of, or simply cornered for a good half hour wit an impromptu interview about what I am wearing, and why. Lolita fashion (and other alt-styles, I’m sure) seem to be the only people who it is still okay to question at length as why we choose to wear these clothes. I see many oddly dressed people in the streets, some of which I find attractive, some of which I don’t. But I’ve never felt the need to make them justify their existence to myself, or the world at large. There is never a reason to catcall, yell, insult, or confront anyone for their clothing choices.

I am not a character. I am not performance art. I am not looking for attention. I am not looking to be offended. I am simply being myself.

Oh well, I suppose it could be worse. At least I’m not Cookie Monster.


How To Wear Lolita Fashion for the Holidays

If you’ve got a holiday lolita party coming up, are just in love with holiday cheer and winter lolita fashion style, or just want to figure out how to take the cutest holiday photos for your Insta this December – Parfait Doll has you covered. Check out this moodboard for the cutest holiday-themed lolita outfit inspo! 

how to wear lolita for the holidays

how to wear lolita for the holiday

Some tips for a holiday lolita themed outfit!

  • Try wearing a seasonal color such as red (naturally), red and green tartan, navy (like the dark night sky), pastel blue like ice, mint like peppermints, or even just snow white.
  • Fluffy winter furs, cashmere hats and scarves, or earmuffs can be a toasty addition. Especially if you live in a cold area, don’t be afraid to throw on some warm gear. Berets are really popular right now, but I also like hats with furry pompoms!
  • Heavy fabrics like velveteen, brushed wool, or flannel can also do the trick. I even made my own flannel bloomers one particularly cold year.
  • Christmas ornaments like glass balls, tinsel, or stars can be cute added to hair accessories or as earrings.
  • There’s no wrong time of year for glitter freckles.

To get adorable winter themed photos, try these ideas:

  • Anything with fairy lights is a go-to spot. Use a bokeh filter or soft focused background to make pretty glowing lights in your photograph, for a dreamy December feeling.
  • Anywhere there is a decorated Christmas tree has potential! You can always use your own tree, or head out into your city to find trees in all shapes, sizes, and colors. My favorite coffee shop has a beautiful tall white tree, and I have a pink tinsel one at home. Even fake trees at a department or craft store can make a pretty backdrop.
  • If you’re more into a soft and cozy feeling, try blankets or furs in neutral colors as backdrops.

Is everyone ready for their holiday teas and parties this year? I know all my German friends are waking up to sweets in their shoes this morning! Tell us your favorite holiday traditions in the comments of the Facebook page!

30 Ways to Celebrate International Lolita Day

international lolita day

“Babe, I’ll be busy this weekend – it’s International Lolita Day.”

“Again?” asks Boyfriend. “Didn’t that just happen?”


Okay, the Boyfriend isn’t crazy – there’s a reason why it seems like Lolita Day happens so often!

Why yes, International Lolita Day has come again – part two of 2017’s lolita fashion celebrations, as ILD is a bi-annual holiday that occurs on the first Saturday in June as well as the first Saturday of December. (Hint: it’s this week!)  While I’ve been celebrating Lolita Day fairly regularly for the past ten years, I often get notes from readers saying they don’t have Lolita Day plans or don’t have any nearby lolitas to share the day with. So whether you’re in need of planning a last minute meetup or a way to spend Lolita Day on your own, here’s thirty ways to celebrate your lolita self this year!

For us in the northern hemisphere, this will be our winter Lolita Day, somewhat colliding with the holiday season, and therefore sometimes considered the lolitas’ Christmas. But if you’re in the southern hemisphere, December will herald in a sunny summer of warm days, parasols and strawberries. Because of this, I’ve split the list in fifteen ideas for each season, especially since it tends to be a seasonal holiday. However feel free to adapt or borrow any of these ideas that you like for either season!


  1. Have a holiday-themed lolita party with beribboned trees and a lolita secret santa!
  2.  Have a lolita card exchange with your friends or penpals!
  3. Dress up in your best lolita winter coordinate with fluffy earmuffs, boots and mittens
  4. Treat yourself to new winter skincare essentials like lip balms or moisturizers.
  5. Buy up lolita-worthy scented seasonal candles like cinnamon bun, sugar cookie or winter forest.
  6. Invite your lolita bestie to a winter crafternoon for crochet, knitting or lace-making.
  7. Try a new gourmet cocoa mix or blend of tea for a cozy afternoon or refreshing morning pick-me-up.
  8. Take a walk in the winter woods in a forest-inspired coordinate with fawns, mushrooms, rabbits or snowflakes.
  9. Make a lolita holiday ornament to either keep or give to your friends
  10. Add lace or bows to a cardigan or sweater to make a cute and warm DIY project.
  11. Go to a nearby skating rink and host your friends at a lolita fashion skate-off!
  12. Make lolita valentines (paper or digital!) for lolitas in your life or online that you admire
  13. Collage favorite clippings and inspirations from your lolita magazines into a scrapbook or to pin up on your wall.
  14. Closet-clean your wardrobe to get ready for the new season!
  15. Get cozy in your kigurumi or lolita pajamas and turn on your favorite lolita-themed movies like Kamikaze Girls, A Little Princess, or Marie Antoinette


  1. Have a summer picnic with plenty of fresh fruits and a bright spring salad!
  2. Find an antique or cute fan to carry around for steamy days
  3. Decorate a straw hat with roses or ribbon for a pretty lolita sun hat
  4. Wear a fruit-inspired coordinate and go berry-picking
  5. Break out your sailor lolita and visit a lakeshore or seaside for a day, especially if there’s a boardwalk!
  6. Make cute  ice cream sundaes or yogurt parfaits
  7. Visit a cherry blossom festival or other local flower festival
  8. Treat yourself to new summer sunblock or refreshing spray mist – or maybe even a setting spray to keep your makeup in place!
  9. Head to the nail salon for a bright spring pedicure with bows or polka dots
  10. Use seashells to make a hair clip or brooch for a mermaid-themed coordinate
  11. Head to a carnival or fairgrounds to eat cotton candy and ride the carousel
  12. Blow giant bubbles and take some whimsical photos of your lolita friends!
  13. Pick up a new parasol at your local lolita fashion shop
  14. Decorate your bedroom with real or faux roses – they’re on sale in the springtime!
  15. Grow window-box flowers or herbs in a sunny spot – strawberries are especially easy to start inside

As for me, I’m headed out to a dessert tea in New York City, and I’m very excited to wear my new rose-themed dress – make sure to check my Insta @victoriasuzanne for more! Whether you’re flying solo this Lolita Day, planning on pampering yourself, or going out with your friends dressed to the nines, I hope you have a wonderful International Lolita Day this year!

Comment your Lolita Day plans below in the comments or on the Facebook page!

Clap If You Believe: Finding Your Voice After a Decade of Blogging

A Decade of Blogging

I have spent an embarrassing amount of months now trying and failing to make even one weekly Youtube videos. Or, any Youtube videos, at all. To anyone reading this right now, who makes videos regularly and thinks nothing of it, I’m sure that sounds silly. I’ve always thought that about people who say ‘oh, I wish I could dress like you do. But I just couldn’t pull that off.’ It sounded so hollow and silly to me. Of course you can. Buy the pink hair dye. Lift your arms, flap a little, think happy thoughts and pixie dust. Lace up the combat boots. Go out there and be anything you want to be. But now I feel it. That creeping dread, a paralyzing fear.

It tenses my muscles. It sparks the nerves in my fingers and they twitch over the delete key. I can’t believe how easy it looks from the outside – just turn on the camera and talk, right? It’s the imperfection that gets me. I hate the idea of making anything flimsy, anything less than my vision. I want it all to be exactly the glossy, ethereal daydream I keep in my head. And of course it won’t be, because art is never about making something glossy and perfect. It’s about trying to make something, and failing, and trying again, and maybe letting the failures molder a little, but there is a glimpse there sometimes. A glimpse of the magic you tried to make. I used to see it all the time. I’d finish a post, slam the submit key, and know in my heart I had written some *good shit*. The conclusion glowed. The words rang out sharp. Comments and emails would roll in. It touched people. Connected people. I had made something alive, something that stirred.

And yet today what I can only feel is a deep sense of paralysis, a certain kind of waking sleep, when you can’t yet move your limbs.


[Click here to watch the original vlog! They didn’t have video thumbnails when this video was made… so I made an imaginary one!]

I just watched my own low-budget, crappy vlog from, God, maybe five years ago, and it was so incredibly better than what I think I could muster today. I’m watching this scrawny pink haired girl with awe and wondering where it all went. Can I snap my fingers and be her again, weird sweater/rockabilly skirt combo and all? I’d give up these pomade eyebrows for an ounce of her innate guts and charisma. I talked right to the camera as if there was a real human there, without any of that crushing emptiness that currently happens when I switch on the camera. There’s no tiny voice in your head that says ‘this is stupid, what do you think you’re doing, who do you think you are?’ I wasn’t shy, I didn’t stutter, trail off, or use any lengthy cuts. It’s my own hair, no giant wigs to hide my naturally fine strands, and fairly little makeup (it’s true – youth and its invisible pores are surely wasted on the young).

I just look like myself. My twenty two year old self, I think, encased in digital amber. WHY is she so less fearless than me? What creepy shadow of edging fear has grown in me since then? Past me can talk about anything. Current me stumbles over what to say. Current me wonders why it’s so dark on the set. Current me is judging the throw pillows in the background. Current me wants her to smile bigger, joke louder, sound fuller, start every video with HI GUYS WELCOME BACK TO MY CHANNEL and past me just smiles and says ‘hi i’m victoria suzanne sit back, take a chill’ and I scream internally again, WHY is this so easy for her? Why are the articles so easy for her, how does she update three times a week with these deeply optimistic fairy tale thoughts, with princess ideals, with badly photoshopped pictures of her hair and her dog covered and heart stickers, and where is that girl now?

Is she judging me for not posting regularly, as I am judging her for those roots, for that lipgloss, for those ridiculous heart stickers. Is she still chasing her Neverland shadow, and I’ve locked mine up? Should I take all these sticky feelings and try to turn them into art like I used to, without hesitation, and spread it all out for you like sloppy peanut butter sandwiches? That’s what she would do. She was fearless. I feel like I’ve disappointed you, with the more moderated and minimalist thing I’ve become now. But more so I feel like I’ve disappointed her. She used to be a fairy princess. If she’s still in there? I wonder if I’ll ever know. I guess she won’t be if I don’t try to wake her up. True love’s kiss. Clap if you believe.

Inside the Rose  Quartz Cave

As of 2018 I will have been writing my blog for a decade. It’s been entirely full of ups and downs, hospital stays, hard nights, things I’ve shown the Internet and you, my dear readers, ever loyal, and things I’ve never told anyone. Ten years is a long time to keep at anything, let alone keep writing at the same pastel-pink blog. It’s crazy to expect Lolita Charm, or Parfait Doll, to stay the same after these years. I’m not the same. I’m not eighteen, or twenty two, or even twenty six anymore. I’m sure I’ve rebooted and restarted and hiatus-ed a million times between then and now. That’s to be expected, too. But I keep coming back to this space, to one of the longest and greatest things I’ve ever created, and sometimes back to that past girl. She reaches out from the pages like Dorian Grey. I don’t always agree with her. She can be naive, high-horsed, or sometimes just plain wrong. She still gets her fan mail though; letters written to 2008 blog posts in the form of snarky comments, or adoring tweens who are hoping she’s still going to post better pictures of her DIY canopy bed.

You can watch her in the video above, if you like. I’m not sure if she’s still here or not. I guess I’m off to find her, but then again, I think she’s always been looking for me too. Here’s to another decade of pink, fashion, and fairytales, no matter what they may look like, in Neverland or New York. Thank you for reading along with me – and always, as I do, hoping for just one more installment.

(Psst… for more OOTDs and photos from this rose quartz cave, make sure to follow @victoriasuzanne on Instagram!)

Kawaii Instagram School: How To Slay Your Flatlay


credits to @stylepolyakova & @ a_socialnative & @alvatrejo & @mamachaannn

credits to @stylepolyakova & @ a_socialnative & @alvatrejo & @mamachaannn

I have gotten even more into snapping shots for my Insta lately! Taking photos on the go of my favorite places and foods has become one of my top hobbies, including hunting down cute spots and snacks to Instagram! Since I also review a lot of cute restaurants (check out my guide to New York City’s pinkest cafes and shops!) I’ve been working on one of the most iconic Instagram photo layouts: the flatlay.

Flatlay is the term for still-life photos shot from above, usually food, makeup, or fashion products. A flatlay can be a great way to showcase products, show a glimpse into your day when a selfie isn’t gonna cut it (we’ve all be there, right? #undereyebags?). If you’re a fashion blogger, consider using flatlays to arrange entire outfits you’re thinking of wearing or to show example styles. The rules are different depending on if you’re at home or on the go, but there’s definitely a trick to nailing either kind. Here’s my favorite tried-and-true tips for a great flatlay.

great use of filling up the square by @thepinkdiary

great use of filling up the square by @thepinkdiary

Work square.

For Instagram, we all know square is best. Turning your phone’s camera to square-mode is a given when arranging your flatlay. Feel free to move or change things with the camera on, too, so you can see ahead of time what your photo will look like. Filling the square is also important – you want to make sure there’s no gaping holes in your design.

an on-the-go flatlay using jewelry, sunglasses, phone case, and outfit details from

an on-the-go flatlay using jewelry, sunglasses, phone case, and outfit details from

Bring accessories. 

Using props can be a great way to bring your aesthetic into a photo away from home. A fashion magazine, sunglasses, lipstick, jewelry, a phone case, or even your own manicure or bejeweled fingers can work. If you’re shooting onto a table or counter, getting your feet or the pattern of your dress in the shot also adds personality. You can use whatever you have on hand, or if you’re going out specifically to snap food photos, think ahead and bring some likely items.

Floral friends.

Another easy, girly touch: fresh flowers. Pick them up from a street vendor or grab your own if you’ve got a bountiful yard. Roses always look classy, but daisies are becoming popular too. For an airy feel that’s popular in Korean insta pixs right now, pull over some greenery like a potted plants or strands of ivy.

lovely outfit flatlay on a neutral background by my friend @chiffon.fleur

lovely outfit flatlay on a neutral background by my friend @chiffon.fleur

Mind your background.

If you’re shooting at home, it’s easy to experiment with different backgrounds like textured fabric (fluffy faux fur is especially fun), faux backdrops like a single marble tile or piece of painted wood, scrapbook paper, or even your bedspread or rug. On the go, you’ll probably be using your cafe table. Keep in mind the aesthetic of your overall feed – dark tables will look good with dark feeds, and white tables or light wood will look better on light themed profiles. If you have a delicious snack that isn’t grooving with you table, consider adding in your props to take away from the backdrop. Or if I’m unprepared, I’ll ditch the flatlay altogether and look for a likely colored wall, like in my unicorn ice cream cone above.

Think color palette. 

Flatlays are a visual treat for the eyes, a little like designing a still life moodboard. When considering your accessories, always be thinking of a color palette. Usually one or two colors worked around a neutral is a good balance. In my case it’s usually pink (surprise) but if you have a dedicated color on your Insta, now is the time to use it. Shout out to my pal Lessie, who manages an amazing monochrome Insta!

a sweet muted flatlay in natural light by @g4ladies

a sweet muted flatlay in natural light by @g4ladies

Natural light is king.

If you’re at home, finding your biggest window and setting up your background there is a given. In restaurants or cafes, try to grab a seat next to the window or even outside if there’s outdoor seating. At the same time, try to avoid harsh shadows from too strong light – indirect, white light is best. A lot of bloggers suggest morning light is the purest choice, particularly on slightly overcast days.

Here’s a few other blog articles I liked on flatlay advice:

Suzie Speaks: How To Create A Flatlay With Basic Props

Amanda Adams: Background Options For Your Instagram Flatlays

I Am Mumpreneur: 7 Steps To A Perfect Flatlay

Dizzybrunette: How to Master the Flatlay

Or, if you want a huge dose of inspo, check out the IG tag #flatlayforever – to see tons of cute flatlays of every style and color palette.

I’m still learning how to master my flatlay skills too, so feel free to comment if you have any secret tips and tricks to a great flatlay photo! If you’ve tried any of these tips, let me know and link your Insta!

Read the other articles on on how to have a super kawaii instagram!

How To Have a Super Kawaii Instagram

How To Have An (EVEN MORE) Super Kawaii Instagram 

OOTD: Diamond Honey at The Kawaii Society

Last Sunday was my first time checking out The Kawaii Society, and I was excited to wear my Diamond Honey dress for the first time! I snapped this up from and it’s the comfiest lolita piece I have for summer. Light chiffon, cute ribbon accents on the bib, detachable bows – this onepiece has it all. I didn’t even wear a petticoat with this, and it still looked perfectly polished.




Selfie and nail art detail: nails done by my favorite, @pika.pi_nails (check out her insta!)

Bonus: After eating sweets at The Kawaii Society (two words: unicorn cupcakes), we still felt the need to try an ice cream spot I had read about in the Gothamist. And, y’know, this cone happened to match my coordinate. Sweet lolita priorities.

Soft Swerve has unique, brightly-colored cones in Asian fusion flavors like ube (Filipino purple yam, for the uninitiated), matcha, black sesame, and their popularly Gothic cones in black chocolate, topped with a number of sprinkles like red velvet cake crumbs or Lucky Charms styled marshmallows. Here’s mine!


Just like we featured Top 10 Best Pink Instagram-Worthy Spots and Cafes of New York City, we are also going to do a top ten cutest Insta-worthy ice cream parlors of New York City! So, do you think SoftSwerve makes the cut?!

I loved chatting up the kawaii people I met at The Kawaii Society! Expect a spotlight on the up-and-coming club for New York kawaii aficionados this week!


Top 10 Best Pink Instagram-Worthy Spots and Cafes of New York City


When I was heading out on a recent trip to visit my family in Seattle (206 love, baby!) I admit to something pretty dorky – looking for the Instagrammest-coffee shops and spots around the city. If you have cute latte art, bread shaped like fish or cats, or cool street art, I want to know about it! I love taking cool photos and finding cute and pastel things to fill up my Instagram (ahem, @victoriasuzanne, shameless follow-plug), and I’d go out of my way especially on a vacation to seek out these spots. So while I was wandering around the Lower East Side of my hometown, New York City, I thought: that’s what visitors to New York need, too!

Whether you’re a local or a vacationer and you’ve been bitten by the millennial pink bug, here are the top ten spots to check out in New York City. Some of these are shops, restaurants, or just pretty pink buildings to take your daily OOTDs or add to your rosy collection.


Pietro Nolita – 174 Elizabeth St, New York, NY 10012

This restaurant is not a sweets place like the others on this list – break up the sugar at this cute casual Italian joint. Not only is the entire inside a bright shade of bubblegum, so are the menus and napkins, which happen to read ‘Pink As Fuck’. Bonus tip: do not forget to check out the heart-mirrored bathroom.


Trash and Vaudeville – 96 E 7th St, New York, NY 10009

Trash & Vaudeville is the cradle of St. Marks’ punk style in New York (and yes, they’re no longer at St. Marks’ – blame the rent). They whipped up Manic Panic – the mainstay for alt hair color – back in the 80s, so all you rainbow haired babes owe homage to Tish and Snooky Bellomo. Even in their new spot on the Lower East Side, they now have a brilliantly pink punk shop.


Cafe Henrie – 116 Forsyth St, New York, NY 10003

This place has the perfect pink tabletops for snapping shots of your brunch, and this place is best known for their pretty fruity smoothie bowls and quintessential millennial avocado toast. Pink neon art graces the walls and creates that soft, rosy glow.

New Territories – 190 Orchard St, New York, NY 10002

Besides being the only place that will serve you bubble waffles topped with whip cream roses and Fruity Pebbles cereal, the interior of this cute ice cream spot is adorably pastel pink and features a pink and gold giraffe sculpture. Personally I recommend the U-Be Tripping, with ube filling, and the Dark and Snowy, both pictured above from a recent gals’ late-night ice cream run.


Vivi Bubble Tea – 325 Broadway, New York, NY 10007

While all of the Vivi Bubble Tea spots are super cute and pastel, the frilliest one is at 325 Broadway – though fair warning, only the Lower East Side will serve you bubble tea floats topped with cotton candy, which are pretty ‘grammable all by themselves. (My friend Petrina of Lolita and the City and I tried them out – check it here!) They aren’t just sweets though – do yourself a favor and get the fried chicken bites, too.


While We Were Young – 183 W 10th St, New York, NY 10014

On the more subdued side for those who like their millennial pink starkly contrasted with milk white, black and gold, this restaurant boasts amazing lighting (those huge windows, of course) and cocktails like ‘Texts From Last Night’ and ‘Too Good For You’. Your swanky girls’ brunch is here.


Rose & Basil – 104 E 7th St, New York, NY 10009

Whether you choose to sit outside on their white wrought-iron patio or inside where flowers creep up the walls, this place is perfect for a date or a quiet hang-out with you and your laptop (because yes, there is WiFi). Pink cherry blossom cakes, rose lattes and even a rainbow latte are on the menu. I spent my last Sunday here, so I’ll be adding a review of this cute spot soon!


Cha Cha Matcha – 373 Broome St, New York, NY 10013

There’s no better pairing than pink and kelly green, and Cha Cha Matcha capitalizes on this by using a pretty pink backdrop for all their green tea treats – lattes, donuts, and macarons. Be on the look out for their bottles of stawberry almond milk, and definitely ask for a pretty Pantone green latte heart on top of your foam.


Sweets by Chloe – 185 Bleecker St, New York, NY 10012

If you’re vegan and love locally-sourced and organic, fear not: Sweets by Chloe to the rescue. At this all-vegan bakery, you can try their mocha almond fudge cake, PB+J cupcakes, and raspberry-goji crumble bars (God, that was so hipster to say I think my car just morphed into a vintage bike.) If you’re sugared out after, head next door to Eat by Chloe to try her savory dinner options.


Brooklyn Botanical Gardens Cherry Blossoms – 990 Washington Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11225

Only available during cherry blossom season of course, but still a beautiful backdrop of anime-like pastel pink blooms set around a Japanese pond. There’s a cherry blossom festival set for a weekend in April every year, but a weekend or weekday before is better if you’re after the quiet and fairytale-like photos. Check the sakura tenkyou – cherry blossom forecast – before you go to see what’s blooming.

Also check out Curbed NY for their definitive list of pink real estate! All of the textured pink walls your outfit shot needs when on location in the city that never sleeps.

If you have a favorite pink place in New York City, drop me a line on my Twitter or Facebook page!

Repin for later & check out on Pinterest!


OOTD: Team Mermicorn


After last year’s mermaid frenzy, I can just sense that the world was headed for Unicorn Universe, at least trend-wise. What has all the same shimmer, glitter, and pop of the mermaid world but has a fresh, bright color palette for spring? Unicorn style, of course. I wish I could buy stock in these sparkly beasties.

When Starbucks says they’re releasing a very limited drink run of the unicorn frappuccino, I knew no matter what it tasted like, I had to try out anything that promised to give me that pastel-swirl look. (The life cycle of the unicorn frappe has already turned – sorry, Starbucks, but except for us Insta-happy pastelitas, apparently colors aren’t enough to make a gimmick hit. Caramel may be beige, but it’s still a fan favorite.)

To get my obnoxiously rainbow swirl drink, I had to put together a matching outfit (cause I am extra like that). Starbucks mermaid goes head to head with unicorn realness in the bright pop art graffiti of Starbucks’ home zip code, Seattle’s very own 206. I spent my summers kicking around Seattle visiting my grandmother up on Aloha Street and cutting my teeth on Capital Hill, so this outfit is also a homage to the colors of the Emerald City.






dress, Dollskill; unicorn silk jacket, 6%DokiDoki; mermaid snapback, Norwalk Aquarium; opal marble iphone case, Velvet Caviar; bag, Liz Lisa; unicorn puffer jacket,

So okay – did I like the flavor? I was pretty skeptical about mango in this color scheme – mango to me says creamsicle orange or golden yellow, like in my favorite Korean Paris Baguette puddings. But yes, I did taste mango in the main body of the frappe, and I wouldn’t be surprised if mango makes a permanent resurgence onto the Starbucks menu. The sour powder that gives it the signature color was fun at first, but between it and the super-sugar content, it only survived about 1/2 way through the drink before all I had left was ice and colors. Verdict? It wasn’t terrible, but it definitely was a once-in-a-blue-moon hype stunt. Love it or hate it, you have to admit Starbucks did get us all excited to see a real soon-to-be legend.

OOTD: Korean Study Date and Marron Cream Cake!


I had a fun afternoon date with my friend Alice this past weekend to practice our Korean and she introduced me to a cute new Japanese teashop and bakery on New York City’s Upper East Side. I wear this comfy pastel pink Liz Lisa look a lot, but I think this is the first time I ever photographed it in an outfit shot!

This is actually two pieces, an underbust top and a matching dusty pink mini-skirt. They are both super comfortable, and pair well together to create the look of a layered onepiece. I even sneak this top under jumperskirts sometime to mix up my lolita style; it’s been really versatile for me.


Harbs is a Japanese bakery with desserts blending Asian sweets flavors with French traditional patisserie style, such as mille-feuilles and crepe cakes. Mine is cream cake with with layers of sweet potato (in Korean, we call this ggomuma) and sweet chestnut, both typical flavors in Asian desserts. It was incredibly creamy and smooth! If you’re in the area, definitely be sure to check out Harbs for a sweet afternoon treat. I’m considering going back in a few weeks for the spring, since they’re known for their cherry blossom-strewn sakura cake.

I’m working on a guide to the best teatime and cake spots in New York City in conjunction with Lolita and the City, so look for it! It’s great for both locals looking for a new spot or vacationers looking to see the cutest and most Insta-worthy places in the city to enjoy cute foods, cakes, desserts and bubble teas. It’s… becoming big… expect multiple installments, if it gets any bigger! What can I say? NYC is bursting with lovely tea shops and patisseries! If you have a favorite NYC teashop, be sure to leave it in the comments below or on the Parfait Doll Facebook page!



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